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Friday, November 30, 2012


So I'm testing out a NEW look on the blog! Please comment and let me know what you think! I am having an issue still with my gdiapers banner and the NurtureMe Store, so bear with me :)

We are also saying HELLO to a NEW Cover image, compliments of Photography by Kay , which we are really excited about! We figured after almost 3 years, it was time to change it up! <3

Lastly, I want to remind you that Facebook and Twitter are ABLAZE with holiday shopping DEALS and preparing for our #12DaysofChristmas #Seasonofgiving extravaganza which starts DECEMBER 5th!

* Teasers for GIVEAWAYS and Promo deals will start Dec 1st*

Enjoy, and happy giving!! <3

Tuesday, November 27, 2012

Advent 2012

This year our family is working on strengthening our relationships with each other, and with God and our church. Having historically been what I would describe as more "spiritual" than religious in the past, I am learning a long with my kids, the story of the Bible and the birth of Jesus.

We have decided to celebrate Advent this year DIY style :)

It cost only 99 cents for the bags. Much cheaper than the traditional cardboard or chocolate laden advent calendars from the store.

I modified this idea from something I saw on Pinterest.

I filled each bag with a line from, essentially, the Nativity story. Although also modified, for my 2 and 5 year olds ;)

of course we also added some treats!

they got prepped and HUNG today over ribbon with clothespins!
What are some different things, DIY or otherwise, you're trying this year??

Holiday Season is Upon Us!

Just as we did last year, our family hosted Thanksgiving dinner this year for my parents, siblings, and our friend Ali.

We kept the meal budget friendly by not purchasing enough food to feed an army. We prepared a variety of small dishes, so that everyone could enjoy, without having enough leftovers to feed 10 families, or worse, throw it all away!

This year's meal consisted of:

fresh turkey, 22lb.   $16
tofurkey with stuffing, compliments of Trader Joe's (for my sister and her soon-to-be hubby) 
stuffing, stovetop  $3
(I always add an onion and a few apples to keep it moist and fresh!) 
carrots and parsnips  $3
mashed potatoes 
sweet potato tartlets
baked apples
one bottle of red, and one bottle of white wine ($3 each, compliments of Trader Joe's) 

I asked everyone to bring a dish, so my sister contributed stuffed mushrooms, vegetarian stuffing, and wine. My parents brought more wine, squash, and a pumpkin pie, my brother brought his world-famous banana cream pie, and our friend Ali brought her amazing-to-die-for brownies! 

 Budget Friendly Tablescape:

* borrowed tablecloths
* used Christmas "china" ;)
* centerpiece was compliments of our friend Ali and her mom!
* I bought the candles for $2 for a pack of 12. I re used old wine bottles and some raffia to make the candle holders

Budget Friendly NEW recipes:

Here are the recipes of some of the new items from this year. I found all the recipes via Google or Pinterest, using items I already had in my pantry and fridge: 

Sweet Potato Tartlets (these came out AMAZING btw) 
oranges                                                    1 tspn vanilla extract
3 cups mashed sweet potatoes                  1 c softened butter
1 c sugar                                                 1 tbspn orange zest
1/4 c orange juice                                   1 c brown sugar
2 eggs                                                  1 c nuts (I used carmelized, flaxseed coated walnuts for $3/bag)
1/2 tspn whole wheat flour

To make: 

* cut the oranges in half and "core" them so you just have the shells
* combine the sugar, OJ, sweet potatoes, eggs, vanilla, 1/2 c butter, and orange zest
* spoon into shells in deep casserole dish or as you'll see I used- a cupcake pan) 
* in small saucepan, over MED heat combine remaining butter, brown sugar, flour and nuts
* cook until sugar dissolves in butter and spoon over oranges
* fill casserole dish with about 1/2 in of water 
COOK AT 350 for 30 min. 


Pear and Goat Cheese Appetizer: 


cracker of your choice (I used raisin rosemary crackers from Trader Joes) 
goat cheese
bartlett pears

To make; 

* spread crackers over serving dish
* top each with a slice of bartlett pear and crumbled goat cheese (I used honey infused goat cheese) 
* drizzle honey over top and SERVE


Baked Apples: 


1/4 c brown sugar
2 tbspn butter
1/4 c nuts (I used another bag of the carmelized, flaxseed coated walnuts) 
1 tspn cinnamon
1/2 c apple juice 
optional- 2 tbspns orange liquor 

To make; 

* core apples
* mix everything but the juice and fill the cored apples
* place in crockpot on HIGH for 3 hours
* cover with apple juice (and liquor) before covering


AFTER. Apple pie without the guilt!

 * you can serve these by themselves, topped with whipped cream, or topped with Noosa Honey yogurt! YUM! 

Enjoy!! How was YOUR Thanksgiving?? Did you try any NEW recipes??

Sunday, November 11, 2012

Answering the 8 Cries of the Spirited Child

The book mentioned in my previous post is NOW available at the NurtureMe Store. Enjoy!

Forget 'attachment parenting'... It's called 'improvement parenting' ...

Trendy or not, like many others I have called myself an "attached parent". I'm not one for labels, as I have expressed before, but as my children grow and our family multiplies, I have done my best to stay abreast (no pun intended) of the issues, and continue to read blogs, articles, and books on parenting.

My hope is that in doing so, I will hopefully spare my children many many years of therapy! ha ha ;) One of our children is particularly "spirited". At times it is hard to tell what is ages/stages and what is more of a permanent personality trait. In hopes to shed some light on the situation, I took to the book Answering the 8 Cries of the Spirited Child . Each paragraph is like it has been written about my child- it almost puts me in a fog when I read it; like, really???! I'm not the only parent experiencing this and feeling like I'm doing something wrong??

We have instituted some of the suggestions already in our home in hopes that all of our children will benefit. Hopefully you find some inspiration here as well :)

Disclaimer: I will re iterate that these are ideas recommended by the Arps, the author of the above book. Additionally, I express them as things that are thus far working in our home and I hope you will find something that works for you. "Spirited" children do fall on a continuum like anything else, and these suggestions are not a replacement for professional intervention where necessary. Our child does also, in combination with what we try at home, see a therapist which we feel is an integral part of helping him feel comfortable in his own skin as he continues to enter in different social groups and the community at large. 


Our child has particular issue dealing with and/or expressing anger and frustration. An idea that was spawned in combination from recommendations in this book, as well as some items seen on Pinterest, we came up with an "Angry Box"

our angry box, centrally located on the kitchen counter
 In lieu of some of the other behaviors we were experiencing, ie; growling, hitting ourselves, pushing, throwing things, etc. Our children (particularly the "spirited one") choose a card when they are unsure how to channel the feelings of being upset/angry/frustrated.

Step 1. Identify your feeling.
Upset, angry, frustrated, depressed, etc. 

Step 2. Choose a card from the Angry Box

these are some of the cards located in the angry box. they are folded inside and the kids choose with their eyes closed. 

Step 3. Do whatever is on the card you choose.

The book also has other recommendations for what comes next if your child is still angry, but we have yet to get to that point :) So far, the box has worked every time. They get almost distracted by the act of the box and choosing a card, etc. and it's enough to make them forget about what upset them in the first place.

Flip Side

One thing that we are instituting starting this week given the success of the Angry Box, is the "Caught you being good jar" or as our younger kids call it: The Happy Box :)

There will be two boxes, because our kids are so far apart in age (15, 5, 2, and 4 months). Sissy's box will contain (based on her recommendations) $5 gift cards to places like Dunkin Donuts, Target, Aroma Joes, etc. When she consistently helps during the week, above and beyond the normal expectation of chores, etc. she will get to pick from her box.

The smaller kids box will contain fruit snacks, squinkies, and other little treats without being all about candy lol. They will get to pick from their jar when they help around the house, feed the dog, or have a great day listening/cooperating, etc.

Everyone is looking forward to the Happy Box <3

How did we come up with these ideas?

What goes in the Happy Box? How is the Angry Box going? How is our family doing as a whole? Where is the disconnect when it comes to the lack of listening and cooperation? How do we get each child, and each member of the family for that matter, to feel loved and appreciated and included given the age differences?

We instituted a Family Appreciation Night.

Given that I am home and my husband works, we have little time for the suggested just-you-and-me time where one parent picks a time to have one on one time with each child. That is ideal, but just not possible for our family at this time. So next best thing? Get everyone together for an hour a month (yes, just an hour) and express how you feel about one another and what everyone can do to improve the family. 

Step 1. Pick a night. We chose a Friday night from 6 30 - 7 30pm. Send out an e vite, post it on your family calendar, etc. 
Don't make it more than an hour. Little kids won't last longer than that anyways and older kids will dread having to spend a "whole night" with the family lol. Let it end on a good note :) 

Step 2. Prep by getting a special snack or drinks for the night. Make it special. 

Step 3. The night is here! 

Here is what we did: 
* We had each of our kids write down (or verbalize) one thing they're thankful for or appreciate about our family, and one thing they would like us to improve. 

I was undecided as to whether our kids would even participate in such an activity! Shockingly, our kids came up with the following (I'll admit, brilliant) insights; 

They were thankful that: they have siblings, that we have good relationships with each other, and that each member helps around the house. 

They wanted to improve: that we hug more, that we do more things as a whole family, and that we listen more attentively to one another. 

Step 4. Create action items for the improvement items. 
We came up with agreeing to be more cognisant of hugging each and every family member a MINIMUM of once a day, everyday. 

We developed some ideas (based on the kids recommendations) of some things they would LIKE to do as a family. They wanted to go out to dinner, watch a movie, go somewhere- like the museum or the zoo, etc. We furthered the action item by agreeing to do this family activity once every other week. 

Note: It may not sound like a lot (once a week), but with a teenager, and two kids who are on shared custody schedules... it is a time frame that was realistic for us. If we do more- Great! but this way, it can be a schedule we guarantee we stick too, instead of feeling like everyone is disappointed when we have to keep "rescheduling" or canceling. 
Step 5. What do they want to see at the next meeting? 
We left out a notebook that the kids could either write in or leave notes in throughout the month, with suggestions for the next meeting. Are there specific snacks they would like? Or items they want to address? or things they know they DON'T want to do at the next one? 

* I also made sure everyone felt appreciated by giving each family member a little gift (the smaller kids each got a coloring book, and older sis and dad got cards with heartfelt messages), and an award. I handmade the awards just on construction paper for each child that indicated why we were proud of them ( a specific, recent item) and one area where we were going to work with them to improve (ex/ my son needs to work on his handwriting, etc) throughout the next month. 
This leaves accountability on BOTH sides for working on those items. Hubby and I's hope is that the appreciation items help them see that we DO also pay attention to what they are doing GREAT <3 

I hope this helps you on your "Improvement Parenting" journey :) After all, who wouldn't want to be a better parent???