Attachment v Free Range Parenting: Which is Better for Your Troubled Teen?
written by
Agnes Embile Jimenez
Troubled teens are troubled for a variety of reasons.
Sometimes, the teens are just trying to assert their independence and break
away from the hold of the parents. Sometimes, the issues are more than
behavioral and the teen is unable to control their impulses -- leading to bad
decisions.
There has been some discussion on the techniques that should
be used to guide these teenagers. Should the teens be given their own
independence to deal with the situation? Should parents take a calm approach?
What does a parenting style have to do with how we treat
troubled teens? Which parenting style is better for the child?
First, it's important to understand each of the type of
parenting styles that we are comparing. Parents that practice attachment parenting are often searching for cues in the behavior of the teen, in their
non-verbal and verbal signs, to provide support. Parenting with attachment
parenting in mind means providing support for the child emotionally,
communicating feelings with the child and having a close relationship where
issues are often discussed in great lengths.
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| Sissy (for the record, NOT a troubled teen) ;) and daddy <3 |
Parents that choose attachment parenting are likely going to
be less inclined to send their children off to boarding schools to teach
independence, as they are more likely to prefer a more hands-on approach in dealing
with them.
Parents that have chosen more of a free range parenting
approach aren't any less attentive to their children’s issues -- however, these
parents may be more inclined to choose boarding
schools for education (so that their children will learn to become more
independent). Free range parenting techniques encourage teens to find their own
independence while being accountable for their actions. Parents that have
chosen this type of parenting are adamant on raising children that are capable
of finding their way in the world, without their constant supervision.
When it comes down to it -- which approach is going to be
more effective for parents dealing with troubled teens? Parents should consider
their own teenager and which responses have worked better in the past, as well
as the personality of the teen. Parents might have to try a few different
techniques when it comes to dealing with behavioral issues. There is no blanket
solution; parents are going to have to experiment with what parenting style
works best for their children, and their entire family.
Need some HELP with your troubled teen?
Click HERE for a PDF of some resources available, or visit Focus on the Family directly.
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